our story short

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our wedding [2014]

in 2011 i was 19 years old and i was in my third year of the education to become an agent or project developer in the real estate business. i was doing an internship at a real estate office where i learned all about the process of selling houses. this is where i met boy. it was on a hot summer day in september, i still remember clearly what he looked like when i opened the front door of the office. the first thing i saw were his arm muscles [yes he was wearing a tee on a business appointment! something where i teased him a lot with when we got to known each other]. he just started his company in the marketing and photography for real estate and came for a sales appointment with my colleague. …

when i came home from the office i noticed he send me a friendship request on facebook. sending someone a friendship request who you barely know is something i do not like, but i thought, maybe it is good for business haha, so let’s add him. after three months of being only friends on facebook, he asked me for a date. i immediately refused him. but after a couple of hours i started thinking and after watching his profile photo for a thousand times i send him the message that i changed my thoughts [i know, this is so not done, but he was still interested, lucky me. and yes, making choices is hard for me].

our first date was all about chatting and our second all about flirting. butterflies everywhere. but there was a quite big obstacle between us; i believe in God and boy doesn’t. the first three months of our relationship were with ups and downs because i thought we could not live together with two different opinions about religion. but it went surprisingly well the first year, boy was attending me to church and we found out we had the same thoughts about some important moral points. to be clear; boy is still not a believer but supports me wherever he can.

boy moved to an apartment in the center of rotterdam. we choosed all the furniture together because we both believed we were going to live together in the future. of course we had to marry first, because of my religion, and boy was ok with that.

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happy and all & struggling with old iphone camera quality [2012]

i finished my education in july 2013, but decided the world of real estate was not my world. i wanted to start a study at the university, after first working a year in horeca and maybe do some travel. in september i applied for a job as a barista at the coffee company and they hired me. that september became one to remember. my period has never been very regular but it never took longer than five weeks [which is quite regular in compare to other women]. this time it took already eight weeks, but i was still not thinking of being pregnant because we were due to medical reasons not able to have children, ever. after waking up a day with sore breasts, i got a bit worried and excited at the same time. we decided to do a test. positive. two stripes.

i was jumping up and down, literally. after a few hours it kicked in. we had so many plans together, plans which didn’t include a child. we wanted to travel the world [we still never went on a holiday together..]. we wanted to live abroad. we wanted to have our own company both. we wanted a lot. but we never thought of having children because that was never an option. nevertheless the feeling of having a baby growing inside my belly was immense and it was and is one of the best feelings in the world. i also realized that we had nine months to get used to the idea of having a real baby. actually seven, i was almost two months far when we found out.

two months later boy proposed me. we both wanted to marry before we would start living together. we organized our intimate urban dream wedding in four months and we married when i was about seven months pregnant with jack. it was a day full of love, together with our loved ones. it is very special to see everyone you love dressed up and coming to your wedding, special for you. i will never forget that feeling.

jack made us father and mother on 25th of may, 2014. he is born by natural birth and it was the best moment of my life [together with the birth of the twins; maybe the twins were better, because the labour was easier ;-)]. the first three months with jack in our life we struggled with ‘having and taking care of a baby’. actually, we didn’t knew what was happening to us. we were both very unprepared, we hadn’t ever heard of reflux, colics and ‘cry hours’. when jack was three months old it went better, we were happy and jack was finally sleeping six hours straight every night. i went back to work, i had a small job at a office of a webshop, but it didn’t work for me. when jack was 5 months, i resigned my job because i still didn’t got my energy back.

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jack one month old

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jack five months old

two weeks after i quit my job we found out i was pregnant, again. our birth control failed. nevertheless i was happy with it, because i had no job and it felt as a ‘new job’. we went for the first ultrasound on the 25th of november, 2014. i forgot the date we found out we were pregnant but this date i will never forget. i will also never forget those TWO little beans who were swimming on the echo. the echoscopist asked us “do you see what i see?” and i only said “yes i see..”, following with some nervous laughing by me. boy was kinda freaking out and also laughing at the same time. we were very excited about having twins but also very afraid. so many thoughts came across my mind, the first three months with jack were hard, how am i going to manage this? we have to move house, where are we going to live? how are going to buy a house with one salary and being an entrepeneur?

the pregnancy of the twins was a lot harder than jacks’. from 28 weeks i couldn’t carry jack anymore by myself because of my pelvis and i was living at my moms house, every day. in the meanwhile we bought a house [yes we got a mortgage, yay!!!], and because boy was very busy with work i took the renovation on me [well, the aranging part]. it was my dream to do a renovation, ever, but not at this time in my life, being pregnant and all. nevertheless it went very well and our parents helped a lot, especially my dad.

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can you visualise our kitchen here?

like i said, boy was very busy with work, his company grew strong the last years. when we just met, he was running it for a year and had just one employee. the business went very well, he worked very hard and he has 115 full time employees at the moment [when i write this, march 2016]. i am so incredibly proud of him that he managed it this far, while building up an unexpected family. the company is still growing and it needs all the profits to invest in new employees and equipment. i just want to make clear the boat of money is not arrived [yet!!! hehe ;-)].

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35 weeks pregnant with the twins

on the 9th of june, 2015, george and james came to the world by natural birth, which went great [i will share that story later]. it was the start of a very hectic but beautiful period in our life. a period a lot of you are following on my instagram. i am very thankful for all your support and it feels weird to say, but sometimes the support really helps when i don’t see through it.

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just born

this post has become a lot longer and personal than i wanted, but it feels good to write it down. it also feels good to give you a story behind my instagram photos. thanks for reading.

x.

 

76 Comments

  1. Sonja March 28, 2016

    Leuk om meer over je te weten, ik ga je zeker volgen!

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      super leuk, dankje!

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  2. Stella March 28, 2016

    Een prachtig en zeker ook indrukwekkend verhaal!

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      lief, dankjewel!

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  3. Sharon March 28, 2016

    Heel leuk om je verhalen te lezen. Ik ga je volgen!

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      thanks!

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  4. Olga March 28, 2016

    Hey, nice story..wish you all luck and happiness

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      thats sweet! thanks!

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  5. Mnm March 28, 2016

    You are so brave!! I really envy you, please continue posting! 🙂 jack james and george are all amazingly beatiful children, and they are blessed to have you as their mom. Also they so cute on snapchat 😁

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      thanks a lot! x

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  6. Mnm March 28, 2016

    Btw this might be a little bit stupid, but I tried the other day to tell who is george and who is james.. I just can’t! How do you tell, expect from motherly instincts? 🙂

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      haha, most of the time i use my motherinstinct 😉 but in case i forgot, g has a spot on his left arm, which J doesn’t has.

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  7. Jenny s March 28, 2016

    You are the most amazing mom ever especially with what you have gone through. I follow your Instagram and I’m always amazed at how organized you are. Your kids are always happy and house is so clean! I have a 1 year old and there are so many days where I’m not managing that I think of you and if you can do it then I should be able to. Thank you for your inspiration.

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      thanks a lot hun! just keep going, don’t sit down, stay in the energy ;-). it works! x

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  8. Stephanie March 28, 2016

    Leuk om het verhaal er achter te lezen

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      dankje!

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  9. Roosje March 28, 2016

    Ontzettend mooi! Kijk nu al uit naar je volgende blog!

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      lief, dankjewel!

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  10. Sharon March 28, 2016

    Erg leuk om meer over jou en je gezin te lezen, na je al een tijd gevolgd te hebben via ig!

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      leuk om te horen!

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  11. Seren March 28, 2016

    Oh wat goed dat je bent gaan bloggen!! Denk je ook aan vloggen? Dat is ook helemaal hot he? In ieder geval,ga zo door! Je doet het super goed! Jeej

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      jaaa, wilde het al een tijdje, maar nu eindelijk gelukt. heel blij mee. weet niet of vloggen wat is voor mij. gaat ook best nog een hoop tijd inzitten en ik denk dat ik dit leuker vindt. misschien later hihi. xxx

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  12. Joyce March 28, 2016

    Very nice story… full of surprise and love….

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      thanks x

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  13. Priscilla March 28, 2016

    Mooi verhaal en heel goed te lezen, ook in het Engels 😉

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      leuk om te horen, dankje!

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  14. Janey March 28, 2016

    Looking forward to more of your stories

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    • mamamargaritha March 28, 2016

      stay tuned 😉 x

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  15. Sandra March 28, 2016

    De engelse vertaling van ‘ik’ is altijd met een hoofdletter..

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      hi, thanks voor je reactie. ik heb gekozen voor alleen kleine letters, stiekem geinspireerd op andere blogs, omdat ik dat mooi vindt.

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  16. Mina March 28, 2016

    My baby girl is 2.5 months and I cant wait to get pregnant! I admire your hard work and wish you truly all the happiness believing in God is great :). To some it sounds weird, but you got a family to emvy and with HIS help. All your pictures and stories behind gives me a smile! Keep continuing please. I hope I get my family of five soon

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      thanks for sharing and your honesty. i will continue 😉 x

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  17. Xtina March 28, 2016

    I just can say: wow! What a story! I follow your IG because i love your home and your babies are so cute! and i was curious about your story! Thank you for sharing, it made me feel i can manage with my current situation too! You gave me strength!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      ahh thanks a lot! sounds great!

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  18. Marian (sailinghomeeee) March 28, 2016

    Super leuk geschreven! Op naar meer!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      thanks!!

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  19. heddy leerdam March 28, 2016

    Super tof, je blog! Met veel plezier gelezen! Altijd al een droom
    Om
    Te bloggen? Op Instagram al veel herkenning, zelf een tweeling van 1,5 jaar nu!
    Ik ga je zeker verder volgen!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      ja, ik vind het vooral leuk dat ik hier uitgebreider dingen kan delen, ipv een kort berichtje op insta. leuk! en dankjewel! x

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  20. Esther March 28, 2016

    Wat mooi dat je dit wilt delen! Verborgen talenten 🙂 #makechoicesbyheart

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      lief, dankje!

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  21. MONSIEURPLUSMADAME March 28, 2016

    love this margaritha, direct in my favourite blogroll !
    I can relate so much with you, your story and my it’s crazy !
    I HOPE WE CAN MET ONE DAY
    MANY KISSES FROM fRANCE !
    MAËVA

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      thanks a lot dear! just visited your website, it look so so beautiful! take care and enjoy your sweet babies <3 x

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  22. Suus March 28, 2016

    Iets mis met de hoofdletters 😉

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      hi, thanks voor je reactie. ik heb gekozen voor kleine letters, stiekem geinspireerd op andere blogs, omdat ik dat mooi vindt ;-).

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  23. Fleur Sterre March 28, 2016

    echt heel leuk om het verhaal te lezen achter je instragram foto’s! ik was altijd al dol op je leuke foto’s. momenteel ben ik bijna 21 en droom al sinds dat ik 6 was van moeder worden haha, maar daar is het helaas nog niet het juiste moment voor. wel weet ik dat ik heel graag wil starten met bloggen/vloggen net zoals jij. zo enorm leuk hoe je op jouw manier het moederleven deelt! een echte inspiratie. ben erg benieuwd naar de verhalen die gaan komen. x

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      hihi dankje. en volg vooral je gevoel. bij ons was het ook allemaal eigenlijk niet het moment, maar uiteindelijk valt alles op zijn plaats. x

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  24. Elseline March 28, 2016

    Wouw wat tof dat je dit doet Piet! je hebt het in je! Xliefs Els.

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      super leuk! dankjewel x

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  25. Linda plugge March 28, 2016

    Leuk om te lezen! Heftig maar mooi hoe het leven kan lopen..ik volg je op insta en geniet van je foto’s. Je kids hebben trouwens geweldige namen! (mijn zoontje heet ook James) lijkt me moeilijk het verschil in geloof maar respect hoe jullie dat doen samen! (Ben zelf ook gelovig) Ik ga je blog volgen erg leuk!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      dankjewel voor je reactie! ja, soms is het lastig maar tot nu toe gaat het heel goed samen. gelukkig ;-). liefs

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  26. Jay March 29, 2016

    your instagram account is one of my favorites!!! You have the cutest family and An insporing story!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      thanks dear!

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  27. Suzan March 29, 2016

    Wat leuk om jullie verhaal te lezen. En wat een avontuur zijn jullie zo aangegaan! Prachtig! Geniet er maar van samen deze tijd komt niet meer terug ook al is het soms natuurlijk zwaar 3 van die boefjes!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      thanks voor je lieve reactie!

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  28. Sigrid March 29, 2016

    Leuk om te lezen, mooie family!

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      dankje! x

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  29. Irismarije March 29, 2016

    Wat mooi om je verhaal te lezen. Je hebt prachtige kinderen en vindt het super om je te volgen op snapchat en instagram. ❤️

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    • mamamargaritha March 29, 2016

      super leuk om te horen! dankjewel! x

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  30. Ramona March 30, 2016

    Welcome to the world of blogging! You have a beautiful family. <3

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    • mamamargaritha April 2, 2016

      thanks dear!

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  31. Bytita March 30, 2016

    Topper! Super, eindelijk wat verhaal achter een massa van foto’s. Talitha

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    • mamamargaritha April 2, 2016

      dank! voelde ook echt dat ik het ‘even’ moest delen ;-). x

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  32. Larissa March 31, 2016

    Heel veel zin om je te volgen, mijn jochie is bijna net zo oud als je tweeling, dus erg leuk om te kijken en lezen!

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    • mamamargaritha April 2, 2016

      leuk! dankje! x.

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  33. Samantha March 31, 2016

    You are truly an awesome person! You have a beautiful family and I really enjoyed reading your story. I can’t wait to read more 😊

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    • mamamargaritha April 2, 2016

      thanks for your sweet words samantha! x.

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  34. rianne van gemerde April 2, 2016

    Zo ontzettend leuk om dit te lezen!! Ik bewonder je en geniet van je foto’s en nu ook je blogs😍 keep on going! Je kids en je man boffen met zo’n drivende kracht in hun leven. Je inspireert me met je positiviteit en never ending energy!! Herkenbaar ook dat je zo’n steun ervaart van je familie!! Keep on going.. Mooi ook om te lezen hoe open je bent over je christen zijn herkenbaar ook!!

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  35. Jacqueline April 3, 2016

    Wat leuk om zo, na jaren elkaar niet meer gezien/gesproken te hebben, een kijkje in jullie leven te mogen krijgen! Leuk geschreven hoor! Ik ga Je zeker volgen! 🙂 als net mama [7 maande ] zijn dit soort dingen altijd erg leuk om te lezen! 🙂

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  36. Carmen April 3, 2016

    Jack is the most beautiful baby I’ve ever seen!!!! Regards from México

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  37. caroline April 4, 2016

    you awesome xxx

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  38. Melody April 4, 2016

    Hello, lovely story. all the happiness to you and your Family. You make me smile everyday with your children photos! They are sooo cute!
    Kisses from argentina.

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  39. Daisy vd pol April 8, 2016

    Mooi !
    Leuk om te lezen.

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  40. Gabry April 18, 2016

    Wauw wat een powerwomen ben je! Ik volg je al langer op instagram en als nieuwe moeder van (maar) 1 meisje vind ik je echt een inspiratie! Respect hoe je het allemaal doet en ook leuk om te lezen dat je vast hebt gehouden aan je geloof!

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  41. Dorthy May 21, 2016

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  42. deborah June 13, 2016

    Wat leuk om je zo wat beter te leren kennen. Ik volg je al een tijdje op ig en je bent echt een inspiratie voor me! Echt een super mam ben je! Liefs X

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