our story short
our wedding 
in 2011 i was 19 years old and i was in my third year of the education to become an agent or project developer in the real estate business. i was doing an internship at a real estate office where i learned all about the process of selling houses. this is where i met boy. it was on a hot summer day in september, i still remember clearly what he looked like when i opened the front door of the office. the first thing i saw were his arm muscles [yes he was wearing a tee on a business appointment! something where i teased him a lot with when we got to known each other]. he just started his company in the marketing and photography for real estate and came for a sales appointment with my colleague. …
when i came home from the office i noticed he send me a friendship request on facebook. sending someone a friendship request who you barely know is something i do not like, but i thought, maybe it is good for business haha, so let’s add him. after three months of being only friends on facebook, he asked me for a date. i immediately refused him. but after a couple of hours i started thinking and after watching his profile photo for a thousand times i send him the message that i changed my thoughts [i know, this is so not done, but he was still interested, lucky me. and yes, making choices is hard for me].
our first date was all about chatting and our second all about flirting. butterflies everywhere. but there was a quite big obstacle between us; i believe in God and boy doesn’t. the first three months of our relationship were with ups and downs because i thought we could not live together with two different opinions about religion. but it went surprisingly well the first year, boy was attending me to church and we found out we had the same thoughts about some important moral points. to be clear; boy is still not a believer but supports me wherever he can.
boy moved to an apartment in the center of rotterdam. we choosed all the furniture together because we both believed we were going to live together in the future. of course we had to marry first, because of my religion, and boy was ok with that.
happy and all & struggling with old iphone camera quality 
i finished my education in july 2013, but decided the world of real estate was not my world. i wanted to start a study at the university, after first working a year in horeca and maybe do some travel. in september i applied for a job as a barista at the coffee company and they hired me. that september became one to remember. my period has never been very regular but it never took longer than five weeks [which is quite regular in compare to other women]. this time it took already eight weeks, but i was still not thinking of being pregnant because we were due to medical reasons not able to have children, ever. after waking up a day with sore breasts, i got a bit worried and excited at the same time. we decided to do a test. positive. two stripes.
i was jumping up and down, literally. after a few hours it kicked in. we had so many plans together, plans which didn’t include a child. we wanted to travel the world [we still never went on a holiday together..]. we wanted to live abroad. we wanted to have our own company both. we wanted a lot. but we never thought of having children because that was never an option. nevertheless the feeling of having a baby growing inside my belly was immense and it was and is one of the best feelings in the world. i also realized that we had nine months to get used to the idea of having a real baby. actually seven, i was almost two months far when we found out.
two months later boy proposed me. we both wanted to marry before we would start living together. we organized our intimate urban dream wedding in four months and we married when i was about seven months pregnant with jack. it was a day full of love, together with our loved ones. it is very special to see everyone you love dressed up and coming to your wedding, special for you. i will never forget that feeling.
jack made us father and mother on 25th of may, 2014. he is born by natural birth and it was the best moment of my life [together with the birth of the twins; maybe the twins were better, because the labour was easier ;-)]. the first three months with jack in our life we struggled with ‘having and taking care of a baby’. actually, we didn’t knew what was happening to us. we were both very unprepared, we hadn’t ever heard of reflux, colics and ‘cry hours’. when jack was three months old it went better, we were happy and jack was finally sleeping six hours straight every night. i went back to work, i had a small job at a office of a webshop, but it didn’t work for me. when jack was 5 months, i resigned my job because i still didn’t got my energy back.
jack one month old
jack five months old
two weeks after i quit my job we found out i was pregnant, again. our birth control failed. nevertheless i was happy with it, because i had no job and it felt as a ‘new job’. we went for the first ultrasound on the 25th of november, 2014. i forgot the date we found out we were pregnant but this date i will never forget. i will also never forget those TWO little beans who were swimming on the echo. the echoscopist asked us “do you see what i see?” and i only said “yes i see..”, following with some nervous laughing by me. boy was kinda freaking out and also laughing at the same time. we were very excited about having twins but also very afraid. so many thoughts came across my mind, the first three months with jack were hard, how am i going to manage this? we have to move house, where are we going to live? how are going to buy a house with one salary and being an entrepeneur?
the pregnancy of the twins was a lot harder than jacks’. from 28 weeks i couldn’t carry jack anymore by myself because of my pelvis and i was living at my moms house, every day. in the meanwhile we bought a house [yes we got a mortgage, yay!!!], and because boy was very busy with work i took the renovation on me [well, the aranging part]. it was my dream to do a renovation, ever, but not at this time in my life, being pregnant and all. nevertheless it went very well and our parents helped a lot, especially my dad.
can you visualise our kitchen here?
like i said, boy was very busy with work, his company grew strong the last years. when we just met, he was running it for a year and had just one employee. the business went very well, he worked very hard and he has 115 full time employees at the moment [when i write this, march 2016]. i am so incredibly proud of him that he managed it this far, while building up an unexpected family. the company is still growing and it needs all the profits to invest in new employees and equipment. i just want to make clear the boat of money is not arrived [yet!!! hehe ;-)].
35 weeks pregnant with the twins
on the 9th of june, 2015, george and james came to the world by natural birth, which went great [i will share that story later]. it was the start of a very hectic but beautiful period in our life. a period a lot of you are following on my instagram. i am very thankful for all your support and it feels weird to say, but sometimes the support really helps when i don’t see through it.
this post has become a lot longer and personal than i wanted, but it feels good to write it down. it also feels good to give you a story behind my instagram photos. thanks for reading.