i wrote this when jack was two years old and the twins almost one year old.
when jack was born we had the intention to go with the flow. no routine, no schedule, just go with the flow. i loved the idea of feeding on request, taking him everywhere we are going and letting him sleep when he wants, wherever he wants. well, i guess it works for other babies but not for mine [and also not for me]. after eight months of broken nights and crappy eating i gave up. i was already three months pregnant with the twins and i needed my sleep. i made a schedule and sticked to it, to the minute. you wouldn’t believe it and it sounds creapy but within four nights he was sleeping through the night, he was eating much better and napping twice a day, on fixed times. i think my babies just need routine.
so when the twins were born i was very meticulous with my schedule [which changed almost every month, because their need of sleep and food changes all the time]. the last two months i became a bit easier with it, but i am still on a schedule. especially because we dismissed our assistance in housekeeping last month. i think every stay at home mom has a kind of a schedule when it comes to housekeeping in combination with the kids. i am always very curious for others. but first i will share mine. there are days when the kids don’t stick to it, when the babies are not napping how they are supposed to [haha] but generally my days are like this now [twins are one and jack is two years]:
6:00 rise and shine / shower- and dresstime
6:30 making breakfast [bottle] for the twins, tidy up the bedrooms, put on a load of laundry
7:30 prepping lunch for boy, tidying the kitchen
8:00 boy is off to work, i start to change diapers and get jack dressed, playtime
9:00 twins off to bed, one on one with jack / some clean time
9:45 laundry time
10:30 fruits for the twins and jack, the twins most of the time wake up between 10:00 and 10:30.
11:00 playtime with the kids or we go for a walk & the twins are having some lemonade after their fruits
12:15 lunch for the twins [most of the time bread with butter], lunch for me [salad or soup], a sort of lunch for jack [he doesn’t like it but i alwasy try it]
12:30 jack off to bed
1:15 small milkbottle for the twins
1:30 twins off to bed, laundry time. when i have some spare time i blog, prep dinner or organize photos
3:15 snack for the kids & lemonade
3:30 playtime with the kids or we go for a walk, depends on the weather [i always prefer a walk, but when it is raining we stay inside].
5:30 dinner for the kids
6:00 every second day the kids are having a bath. the other day they have tv time / changingtime.
6:30 last bottle for the twins, in the meanwhile i am trying to tidy everything and clean a bit, when they let me.
7:00 twins of to bed and then i put jack in bed. when boy is already at home from work he puts jack in bed.
7:05 finishing tidy up downstairs, prepping dinner.
7:30 dinner for boy & me
7:45 or later, cleaning the kitchen, vacuuming and mopping the floors downstairs [mopping twice a week]. when i have some spare energy i also do some cleaning.
this summer i want to start with dinner as a family and not eating separated, but that depends on the time boy is coming home from work [mostly late].
because of so many of you are asking for my schedule i decided to share this. also because i love to read about other peoples schedules. but i want to make clear everyone has his own way to live. with this post i don’t want to say that a schedule is better for everyone. it is just better for me [and my babies]. i still love the idea of living without a schedule and go with the flow, but that time will come back again for me when the kids are older and when i have more time for myself. for now, this works out the best for us.
it is very difficult to get on a schedule with babies, especially when they are very young. i started with it when they were very little. the hardest part is to get them asleep in their own bed, on fixed times. i used sleeptraining [or sleepcoaching, google for it] for all my babies, starting from when they were three months. it is a coached ‘letting-cry’ method. i felt good to do it in that way, it is different to every mom, just do what feels good for you. i don’t want to spoil my babies with attention, i love to have time with them [it is the best], but i also love time without [sorry boys]. i think it is really important to find the right balance.
if you have any questions about my schedule, don’t hesitate leave a reply or sent me an email.